Things you can do to make yourself instantly Likeable

Things you can do to make yourself instantly Likeable

Everybody wants to be more likable. I would say we probably don’t spend enough time figuring out how people can like us more, or maybe sometimes we spend too much time doing it. Either way, I don’t think that sometimes we are very conscious about the things that we do or the way that we present ourselves. In this article, I’m going to invite you to check out some ways that might be useful for you to get people to instantly like you.

Take your hands out of your pockets 

Perhaps people probably told you this already. Putting your hands in your pockets is like hugging yourself. You are looking insecure. Usually, your head is down. You’re just looking like you are feeling sad or something. This is the total opposite of charisma. If you see anybody confident, they will never have their hands in their pockets. You might have somebody with one hand in their pocket and the other moving around if there may be singing. In my experience, I probably have never seen anybody confident who puts their hands on their pockets, so take them out.

Be inclusive

Suppose you want to look like it charismatic; one easy way is to be inclusive. If there’s a group of people and some people roaming on the outside, then invite them into your conversation. Say, hey look, this is Tom, and he’s new here, or something. Or you could say, hey, this is Shirley, and she is good at drawing. Do you want to see? Stuff like that. People will appreciate that. It just looks like you’re the person they want to know.

Stand in a relaxed position

Sometimes when you’re talking to people, you might be at a bar. You could be leaning against the bar and in a confident position. It just makes you look like you’re more relaxed. The more relaxed you are, the more confident you look with other people. People don’t want to be around people that look too nervous all the time, and especially if you look confident, then people are more likely to be around you and just like you in general. So maybe you’re just leaning against the bar. Or you have one leg up against a chair or something. It’s basically a more relaxed position.

Make your point heard

People might try to cut you off in a conversation, but at the same time, you want to be heard at the end. You’ll see in some interviews, especially, with some celebrities, at the end they will probably make their voice louder. I mean, you’re not going to try to overpower the other person, but at the same time, you want to make sure that people realize what you’re saying is essential. So at the end of whatever people are saying, then perhaps you can say, well, this is my point. Try to make it so that you don’t sound like you are overriding what the other person says. In the end, you want to ensure that you are heard and that they feel validated.

Don’t scan the room

Wandering eyes. Some people will have wandering eyes, looking all over the place while someone is talking. This makes the other person feel boring. I think this is probably pretty obvious, but at the same time, if you are trying to figure out what you’re trying to say, your eyes may wander. I’m not saying that you need to focus 100% of your attention on who you’re talking to, but at the same time, don’t look around for something. It makes you look like this person is boring, and I want to do something else. So please don’t do it.

Be the center of attention 

This one is a little bit easier said than done. If you have a mohawk or you have tattoos all over your body, then maybe people are just going to look at you. If you’re the center of attention when it comes to conversation, people think, wow, I need to know this guy or lady. Wow, this person is the person to know. Maybe they know something that I don’t know. It just seems like there’s something to know about you. This is why usually famous people will travel with an entourage, obviously besides the fact that they have a bodyguard. If you’re the center of attention, by making people feel inclusive and listening to other people's conversations without getting cut off, people will instantly like you.

All in all, I would say that being likable is an art. I think that’s probably why there are classes on how to be more sociable. Be more charismatic. Be a really popular person. Use your voice and body language, and have something interesting to say. Use pauses. There are just so many different things that you can use to make people like you more. If sales is your job, then maybe this is probably some useful information. In general, it’s good to be liked, but at the same time, if it’s not your style, perhaps this was good for you anyway. I hope you enjoyed reading.